Friday, March 15, 2013


I was given this poem in an "email forward" about ten years ago, and then received a slight variation shortly after my divorce 5 years ago.   It's something that's come to ring true for me, and I find myself thinking about it from time to time.  This morning is one of those times.  Thought I'd share my favorite version here.

Reason, Season, Lifetime
Author Unknown

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When you figure out which it is, you will know what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, 

it is usually to meet a need you have expressed, outwardly or inwardly.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty; 
to provide you with guidance and support; 
to aid you physically, emotionally or even spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, 
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. 

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they just walk away. 

Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. 
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. 
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, 

because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. 
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. 
They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.  
Believe it! It is real!  But only for a season.
And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall,
the season eventually ends.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;

things you must build upon to have a solid emotional foundation.  
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, 
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. 

It is said that love is blind, but friendship is clairvoyant. 

Thank you for being a part of my life, 
whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime. 

January 7th 2012 I met a man whom I would have assumed would have been in my life for a reason, or even simply a season at best.  The thing about relationships is, you never know [usually] which category people you meet will fall into until they are no longer part of your life.  Over time it begins to become apparent some are lifetime friends, while others just have a long season.

In the first five months I spent with this man, I began to learn lifetime lessons, things we could build upon to have a solid emotional foundation.  As the past year has continued, our relationship has only grown stronger and the lessons learned have carried over into other relationships and areas of my life as well.

Perhaps, because love is sometimes blind, I didn't see it in the early stages of our relationship.  He was someone to have fun with, to flirt with, to be with, until, that is, he became my best friend.  Our friendship has been clairvoyant - "having the power of seeing objects or actions beyond the range of natural vision" (  in the sense I began to see in myself things I never knew or never before understood, and  I began to see and to feel that I could spend the rest of my life with this person and I wanted that.

It's been more than a year since we've met, and fittingly, we've been together through each of the seasons.
Tomorrow, I will marry my new best friend for a lifetime.  I am looking forward to a lifetime of what comes after the "Happily Ever After".

To my Best Friend, I Love You!


Debbi said...

I am so exited for your continuing adventures and the many seasons you two will share and travel through together.
congratulations and prayers of joy coming your way from one who "gets it" entirely!!!

kanaboke said...

So happy I was able to be there to celebrate with you and Eric and the rest of the family yesterday! Congratulations ~ this so Beautifully expressed what we were able to witness yesterday.

Paige said...

That is beautiful! Congrats!

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