"...this is the most unusual story


of a most unusual girl..."

Sunday, May 12, 2013

Mothers

So, sometimes I have this thing I do, which often seems uncontrollable - a complex secretometer phenomenon, characterized by seepage from the lacrimal apparatus, without any irritation of the ocular structures.  Yes, it's true.  Sometimes I'm a bit emotional and I cry. This week was no exception.


This week I thought of my Sister-in-law and my brother as they made the 14-ish hour drive to be with the birth mother who would bring their sweet new little girl into their arms on Friday.  I also thought about my dear friend whose mother is dying of cancer.  With Mother's Day fast-approaching, I thought about each of these strong women in my life - my sister-in-law and my friend- and I thought about they struggles they've had to endure or are enduring and I'd get teary-eyed; tears of happiness and joy for my sister-in-law and tears of empathy and heartache for my friend, and I thought about the circle of life, and it hit me that Motherhood is an eternal, never-ending part of life.

To all the beautiful women in my life, to those who have mothers, who've lost mothers, and who are mothers, Happy Mother's Day!

Saturday, May 11, 2013

front door decor: No Wreaths Allowed!

When the hubs asked what I wanted for Mother's Day, I'm not sure what he thought when I said, "Something for the front door."  Tired of the traditional wreath, I wanted to adorn my front door with something different -- something, "fresh".

I googled front door decor and saw a few unique takes...


First from {Blue Sky Confections}  (above) and the second from {Time Flies} (below).
Google also produced lots of Star ideas.  But quite frankly, been there & done that -- and so has everyone else, right?
Next, I turned to Pinterest.  Found lots of out-of-the-box ideas.  But, most were a little too bold for me.
I loved what I saw on Etsy, and was especially inspired by the iron scroll work and the vintage welcome knocker.  However, at more than $40 each + shipping, eh, forget about it.  Even though the hubs didn't give me a restricted budget, I felt like spending more than $80 to hang something outside on the door was a bit excessive.  "I can do better than that," I thought.
So, inspired by the 2 DIY bloggers and the awesome vintage stuff on Etsy, I set out on the hunt for the new door decor. I scoured every home decor store and discount place like Ross, TJMaxx, Home Goods, Marshalls, Gordman's, .........  and there were a lot of "nice" things.  Still, nothing grabbed me.  Finally, I remembered it was Thursday and Real Deals was open!  W00t!  So, off to Real Deals I went, and the rest, as they say - is history!

My new front door decor:
I just love the way it turned out.
It took less than an hour, and cost just under $25.  Now, that's MY KIND of DIY project!

And now, for a quick tutorial.

Friday, March 15, 2013

Tomorrow

I was given this poem in an "email forward" about ten years ago, and then received a slight variation shortly after my divorce 5 years ago.   It's something that's come to ring true for me, and I find myself thinking about it from time to time.  This morning is one of those times.  Thought I'd share my favorite version here.


Reason, Season, Lifetime
Author Unknown

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When you figure out which it is, you will know what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, 

it is usually to meet a need you have expressed, outwardly or inwardly.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty; 
to provide you with guidance and support; 
to aid you physically, emotionally or even spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, 
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. 

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they just walk away. 

Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. 
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. 
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, 

because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. 
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. 
They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.  
Believe it! It is real!  But only for a season.
And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall,
the season eventually ends.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;

things you must build upon to have a solid emotional foundation.  
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, 
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. 

It is said that love is blind, but friendship is clairvoyant. 

Thank you for being a part of my life, 
whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime. 


January 7th 2012 I met a man whom I would have assumed would have been in my life for a reason, or even simply a season at best.  The thing about relationships is, you never know [usually] which category people you meet will fall into until they are no longer part of your life.  Over time it begins to become apparent some are lifetime friends, while others just have a long season.

In the first five months I spent with this man, I began to learn lifetime lessons, things we could build upon to have a solid emotional foundation.  As the past year has continued, our relationship has only grown stronger and the lessons learned have carried over into other relationships and areas of my life as well.

Perhaps, because love is sometimes blind, I didn't see it in the early stages of our relationship.  He was someone to have fun with, to flirt with, to be with, until, that is, he became my best friend.  Our friendship has been clairvoyant - "having the power of seeing objects or actions beyond the range of natural vision" (Dictionary.com)-  in the sense I began to see in myself things I never knew or never before understood, and  I began to see and to feel that I could spend the rest of my life with this person and I wanted that.

It's been more than a year since we've met, and fittingly, we've been together through each of the seasons.
Tomorrow, I will marry my new best friend for a lifetime.  I am looking forward to a lifetime of what comes after the "Happily Ever After".

To my Best Friend, I Love You!



Sunday, March 3, 2013

Confessions, Sphincters, a Sneak Peek & Online Robbery

I'd like to think I'm fairly laid back about quite a few things and don't often get my "panties in a bunch" over most stuff.  But -- yes, I admit, sometimes I may get a little uptight about certain things.

One thing I tend to obsess over is my grades.  I remember a few semesters back, when I started a theory class - and it was HARD - I walked out with the instructor and was bemoaning about my latest test score, in spite of rigorous studying and diligent note-taking.  He told me not to worry and that, compared to the rest of the class I was doing "quite well."  I looked at him with horror and said, "according to my calculations, that last test just knocked me down to a B+."  To which he replied, "Emma, in the grand scheme of things, no one is going to care if you get an A or a B in my class.  Sometimes, you just need to loosen your sphincter."  Yeah, my jaw dropped too (while he proceeded to laugh his way to his car).

Aside from my grades, the other time I tend to get a little uptight is when dealing with my children's behavior, especially when they are out in public - on "the loose". I expect/want them to be model citizens.  I suppose it goes along with that once-upon-a-time image that I'd grow up to be the perfect wife and the perfect mother and have perfectly-perfect children and live in a perfectly charming house with the perfectly-perfect white picket fence.  And while **I** know that my kids aren't perfect, I suppose my fear is that I don't want OTHERS to know, because, heaven forbid, it may reflect on my parenting skills (or lack thereof).  So, I guess what I am saying is that yes, sometimes I fear what others may think of me.

On a deeper, more narcissistic level, perhaps what I really crave is praise on what an awesome mother I am and what a great job I've done raising such wonderful kids; praise that would be hard to come by if my children were hyperactive and uncontrollable and the type to make others shake their heads, cluck their tongues, and throw judgmental stares in my direction.  Perhaps NOT having "those kids" (that others disdainfully whisper about) somehow makes me feel validated as a mother, that I got an 'A'.

Whatever the case, I also know that I can't manage all things, and least of all, other people. So while for the most part I try to keep the aforementioned anal-retentiveness at bay, throw a little anxiety into the mix, and it's all downhill from there; those cheeks tense right up!

This was the case this past weekend, when we were to have our Engagement/Family Photos.  We had decided that since this upcoming marriage will include the joining of our families, we wanted our children to be in some of the pictures too.  As much as the photographer (Mary) tried to reassure me that everything would turn out "gorgeous", I was still apprehensive.  While the weather was warmer than it had been, the shoot location still had quite a bit of snow, more than I had anticipated.  Add to that my anxiety over having pictures (of me) taken, a hyper-active 6 year-old who didn't respond very well to my pleas to stop running and kicking the snow and mud, and teenage children ready to hurl every time the poses included any sort of physical touching of each other. Yeah, I guess you could say I got a little uptight.

Eric tried to get me to loosen up and laugh and I did have to take several deep breaths and in the end remind myself that I'm a huge fan of natural consequences and if the kids actually do hurl from hugging or if the 6 year-old should slip and fall into a mud pit, well then, hey, we'll have the pictures to show for it, right?  //Deep breath.//

Mary was a gem through out the entire ordeal and I am so grateful for her relaxed nature.  (I promised her I'd take half a Xanax the day of the wedding though.)  She somehow came through on her promise to make us look gorgeous, in spite of gritted teeth and head throbs, and all in about an hour.  I'm so glad we went with her.  I knew after seeing a few of the shots, I picked the right person to do our wedding photos!  I'm so happy how our family shoot turned out, I'll even give you a sneak peek!

But first -- in other news -- some jerk somehow got my Visa debit # and made erroneous charges this morning in Del Ray Beach, FL and Charlotte, NC, completely wiping out my account and leaving me with a balance of   -$102.  Yeah, NEGATIVE $102.  Not cool.  I don't think I have enough Xanax to relax over that one just yet.  //More deep breaths//

Ok -- on to the photos.
(See Mary Gibson Photography on Facebook for more of Mary's work.)








Sunday, February 17, 2013

Angels and Diamond Rings

Ok, so I've been meaning to tell you the story about my ring-shopping experience, but I warn you this post may be a bit wordy and filled with lots of little side commentaries.

If you've read my prior post regarding my recent proposal, then no doubt you remember that he proposed without the ring.  Of course, ring shopping immediately ensued the following week; it was sweet how he wanted me to be able to pick out the ring I wanted.

This may come as no surprise, but as we had been dating for well over a year, the thought of a proposal had crossed my mind once, or twice.  (Ok, fine, about a gazillion times!)  I had already started thinking about the type of ring I'd want should such an opportunity present itself.  I happened to see a beautiful ring on Pinterest, or maybe it was Facebook-- whatever. Anyway, it got me clicking from one site to the next.  I had seen a few features on one ring I loved and a few from another and in my mind, began to formulate this ring that I now wanted -- MY ring.

It was a white gold square halo ring with a split band.  I had decided that instead of an engagement band AND separate wedding band, a split band was a two-fer and just more 'me'.  I love halo rings.  Something about a halo of mini diamonds hugging the center stone just makes me feel...  "comfy", in a sparkly sort of way, hehe.

So I had this image in my head and we were off to a few stores on our list.  We had heard wonderful, marvelous things about Store A.  Personally, I think Eric (aka, "The Man") was more eager to visit their building to see first-hand the architectural design than he was about finding my ring there.  (I think it's a man thing.)

We parked and entered and were ushered to the 3rd floor where all of the glitzy beauties lay protected under glass; kryptonite for exes.  There is where we met Steele.  No, not a Man of Steele, nor was he Mr. Steele.  Steele was his First Name.  Cool, I thought.  Before we got started, Eric asked Steele about the history of the building, and the next thing you know, we were getting a private tour of the building, through secured doors, and into the basement where the ring designers sat and showed us how they use computer programs and 3-D printers to design and make prototypes of each unique ring.  It was A-MAH-ZING.  We felt "special", like Steele had all the time in the world just for us.  Then we rode the private elevator back to the 3rd floor where Steele showed us all sorts of beautiful rings, all top of the line and all more expensive than either of us could wrap our wallets around.  When Steele asked what sort of ring I had in mind, I told him and in turn he informed me that my ring would cost me a small fortune plus my good kidney. Yowza. We thanked him profusely, got his card and told him we'd be in touch.  And then, we left.

We proceeded to Store B.  Mustache Man and Chop Suey worked as a team to push their 1980's style gold on me.  Didn't they have anything from the current decade?  What little selection they did have was hard to see in the dimly lit room. Even my allergies were afraid of the encroaching dust bunnies.  When I explained to them what I envisioned, they did not understand and proceeded to show me other rings I would "definitely love."  Well, I had news for this duo (other than his toupee being a bit too obvious).  I only love what I actually love; not what you tell me you think I will love.  Moving on.

Time was ticking and we talked about going back to Steele and making it work.  Eric REALLY wanted me to have a beautiful ring.  But, as I thought about our upcoming wedding expenses and the fact that we were trying to get his basement finished as well, I knew that there was no way I could say yes to the ring at Store A.  How could I enjoy my ring knowing how much of a sacrifice it would be?  Or worse, anytime something might come up financially, I would feel guilt over having spent the money on the ring.  No way.  I told him we'd keep looking.

That night, after work we went to a few other places; places that have tons of commercials on TV, bragging about how all men shop there, etc.  Well, let's just say Jared's and Kay's did not impress me.  Perhaps I hadn't received very good customer service, or perhaps nothing looked as beautiful as what Steele had shown us earlier that day.  I mean, let's face it, there was a huge step down in quality when we went to the chain stores.

About ready to give up, we decided to stop in to one more jeweler, about 15 minutes before close.  The sales lady's name was Rachel.  She was a lovely woman, albeit a little bit flighty. She asked me what sort of ring I wanted. I told her I was hoping for a white gold, square halo ring with a split band.  She pointed to a selection in the case I happened to be standing in front of.  From the aerial view, nothing looked like what I wanted.  She began taking me around the store showing me other rings, similar to what I had described.  Then she started in about Angels.

"Do you believe in Angels?" she asked.

"Uhh, yes," I stammered, trying to figure out what that had to do with anything.

"So do I," she replied.  "And just talking to the two of you in this brief amount of time, I feel like an angel brought you to me."

Nice try, Ray-chel.  Nice way to try to get the sale! Hummmph!  That's not going to work, I thought.  "Oh, Mmm-Hmm," I replied, continuing to eye every single band in the case.

"And I can tell," she continued, "He really loves you.  I know you two will be happy together and I know you will find the right ring.  You will see it, and you will just know."

All right, I was thinking, cut the crap already.  I already KNOW he loves me.  I couldn't believe at what lengths some people would stoop to just to get the sale.

"Are you sure you wouldn't want to have a second glance at the hand-crafted collection?" she asked.  (That was the first set of rings she pointed out to me.)

I was tired and exhausted and we were getting ready to head out of town and time was running out.  True, I was engaged, but [insert whiny voice here] I wanted my ring!  "Okay," I sighed.  "Sure."

We walked back over to the first case.  Although this time, instead of looking at the collection through the top of the glass, I crouched down in front of it, to get a better look.  I couldn't believe my eyes.

"Let me see that one," I practically shouted.  Was it so?  Did there just happen to be a White Gold Square Halo Ring with a Split Band just SITTING THERE?  If so, how did I miss it???

I stood as she pulled the ring from the case and quickly slipped it over my ring finger.  A perfect fit - Not.Even.Kidding.

Smiling, I turned to Eric and exclaimed, "THIS is my ring!  This is the one!"  It was the EXACT ring I had in my head all along.  I looked back at Rachel as she smiled a big smile and whispered, "Angels."

When we looked at the pricing, we were shocked at how many less 0's that tag held in comparison to the one Steele had shown us earlier.  True, the quality at Store A was probably a smidge better.  But this ring at Rachel's store was WAAAAAAAY better than the chain-stores.  Still in shock, I asked Rachel, "Why are your diamonds so much less?"

She replied, "Oh, it's our company; we have our own diamond mind in Canada."  Eric and I looked at each other, and knowing what the other person was thinking, tried hard to keep from busting up laughing.  Like I said earlier, Rachel wasn't the sharpest tool in the shed.  It was all I could do to keep from asking if Diamond 'Minds' produced sparkly thoughts.  Tee hee.

As simple-minded as Rachel was, we were so grateful to have went into her store that night and we were even more grateful they have their own mine in Canada, thereby cutting out the middle man, and several thousands of dollars!  I don't know if it's true what she said about an angel leading us into that store right before closing time, but it would sure explain finding the ring I had already formulated in my mind, now wouldn't it?

One quick note and then I'll show you a picture of the ring.  We DID call Steele back the next day to thank him for his wonderful service.  He AND his store truly are a class act.  Eric also said that if we ever strike it rich, we will definitely go back to Store A.  I think Steele was a little shocked to hear from us, but we just thought a classy guy deserved to be treated the way he treated us.  The Golden Rule, y'know?

And now, the ring...


And how it looks on my hand...



Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Perfect Proposal

After recently "publishing" my engagement on Facebook for the entire world to see, I received tons of inquiries asking, "How did he do it? How did he ask?"  To which I replied, "With his mouth."

Yeah, I crack myself up.

I don't know what it is, but people love hearing a good love story, and I suppose "with his mouth" does nothing to quench the insatiable thirst of hopeless romantics.  (I should know; I am one.)  Of course, as a writer, I love a good love story too, and this is one story I couldn't leave alone, especially because it's MY love story.  :)


Two Weeks Ago...

We had plans to go into the canyon Friday night, up to Sundance Resort for dinner. Our Saturday plans included meeting up with 3 other couples for a date night.  We had a fun, busy weekend ahead.

The Man was thinking it just might be the weekend to propose.  The Man also knew I'd been waiting, like For.Ever. for this little 4-word question to be popped (indicative with several not-so-subtle hints in the preceding weeks).  Of course, he wanted the "bling" to sweeten the deal (like I'd say no), cuz we all know that if some chick says she's engaged and she doesn't have a ring to show for it, all of the other chicks are all, "MmmHmm.  She ain't gettin' may-reed. He ain't give her no ring yet.  Srsly."   And, well, he didn't want that for me.

However, Mother Nature had other plans. Thanks to an awful snow storm that Thursday, the opportunity to purchase and surprise me with a ring before that weekend were fast fleeting.

Friday night the snow let up just enough for us to make it into the canyon.  The atmosphere was beautiful in spite of the chill and I admit, I couldn't help thinking this was the perfect night for him to pop the question.  And though we had many sweet exchanges that evening, a proposal wasn't one of them.

After getting back so late Friday night, I don't think either one of us woke before noon on Saturday.  We hung out a little bit in the afternoon working on some of my family's genealogy 'cuz we're romantice like that , and before we knew, it was time to get ready and head out for our date night with the group.

Following dinner, the couples all came back to The Man's house for games.  We had fun laughing, playing and eating dessert, though I'm not gonna lie - I was Tired, with a capital T.  I don't know about you, but there is something about freezing, snowy weather that seems to suck the life right outta me.

Around midnight, the last of the couples left.  I was exhausted. My back hurt. My eyelids began to droop and I knew it was only a matter of time before my words would become incoherent and spittle would begin forming at the corners of my mouth.

The Man agreed to rub my back which eventually led to us sitting on the floor in his living room, basking in the long-awaited still of night. Me, enveloped in his warm embrace, my head on his shoulder, enjoying the peaceful, restful moment; that moment just before the diabolical drool-patch began its slow-drip and my RLS triggered the Jimmy-Legs.  I was completely oblivious to his state of mind.  Perhaps he had a surge of courage and decided to ask before his fears stepped in again. Perhaps he decided, ring or no ring, he didn't want to wait anymore.  Perhaps he was overcome with emotion and couldn't stop the words from rolling off his tongue. Perhaps he just felt the moment was right.

His lips gently brushed the apple of my cheek as he whispered, "I love you."  Then, just before my eyes rolled into the back of my head, his lips grazed my ear ever-so softly, quietly forming the words, "Will you marry me?"

Spell? Broken. Exhaustion? Over. Sitting-Up Straight and Snapping To!

"Yes!" I exclaimed, physically restraining myself to avoid blurting out, "When?"

Much merriment in the forms of foolish grins and giddy school-girl laughter ensued.  My death-choke of a hug around his body didn't seem enough to convey my emotions that very moment.  I felt almost foolish for trying to quantify something which has no bounds. How can one possibly express the inexpressible?

True, he did not have a ring. True, he did not bend down on one knee. True, it wasn't in a fancy setting with a romantic ambiance. Nevertheless, it came from the man I love, delivered with most genuine of heart in the most tender of ways, allowing me to glimpse the depths of his love for me.

It was MY proposal,

and

it

was

PERFECT.

Weight Watcher' Cheat Sheet: Easter Candy Favorites

I find it extremely enlightening to know I can splurge on 1 Russell Stover's Marshmallow Egg for only 3 points!  Notice the portion sizes too.  If you're like me, part of successfully snacking is "tricking" the mind.  I love know that I can either have 7 mini 3 Musketeers or 4 mini Snickers for the same amount of points.  Um, I'll take the 3 Musketeers, thank you very much.  It's also helpful to see that there is NO REASON FOR A SOLID CHOCOLATE BUNNY in ANYONE'S Easter Basket.  A serving size of the solid is only 1/4 of the bunny, which is the same exact points for and ENTIRE hollow chocolate bunny.  Again, being able to eat "the whole thing" instead of a quarter of it sends a signal to my brain that I have more than enough to satisfy my craving.

But my BEST find?  You got it.  The SweeTarts Chicks, Ducks & Bunnies.  I can have 4 pieces for 1 point (or 8 for 3 points).  WootHoot!  I like to buy these to keep in my desk at work.  I find that if I pull 4 pieces out, and suck on one at a time, the craving for something sweet is completely satisfied!

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