Tuesday, October 26, 2010

She Asked...

Even though I have lived out here in the West for 13 1/2 years now, I am still learning about the culture here. I am not sure if this is a "Utah" thing or a "Western" thing or what. But apparently, when high schoolers ask each other to dances out here, there is a formality to it.

I should start off by first saying that when I was in high school a dance was a dance was a dance. Dances could be clarified as "just a dance", or "semi-formal" (like the Winter dance) or "formal" (like Prom). But out HERE, they refer to casual dances as "stomps" while "dances" usually hold some sort of formality to it, like homecoming, Sadie Hawkins, Prom, etc.

Let me explain what I mean by "Formality". Apparently, it's a BIG deal on HOW you ask the person you want to take to the dance. And then it's a BIG deal on how the proposee replies to the proposer. I know... it makes my head spin too. Seems like an awful lot of pressure in high school. And I worry about the guys that go through all of the hype of asking the girl out and then gets rejected. Rejection is hard enough without having to come up with the formality of popping the question. Nonetheless, it's just the way it is here, and I suppose rejection is all a part of growing up, isn't it? And I suppose most teens don't ask someone unless they are pretty certain they'll get a "yes" response.

When my son asked his date to homecoming a few months back, he was in his car and saw her walking. He basically stuck his head out of the window and said, "Hey. So, you wanna go to homecoming with me?" And her reply was a simple and sweet, "sure." Simple. Sweet. But then again, he was raised by a Hoosier who wasn't up to snuff on the whole gotta-do-a-big-proposal-for-the-dance ceremony. In a way, it sort of seems archaic to me too. But I can also see how fun and creative it can be, especially once you get in proposal mode.

Okay, so now on to the title of the post. The Sadie Hawkins dance. This is a dance our local high school does typically around Halloween. The students go dressed in costume. (When I was a teen, "Sadie Hawkins" WAS the costume!) Anyway, this dance is girl-ask-guy (some schools call this MORP - backwards PROM).

This is how The Girl asked FunnyMan...







The Girl and her sister and best friend filled my front room with balloons containing slips of paper. He had to pop all of them in order to find the one with the question, "Will you go to Sadie's with me?" The other notes were inside jokes and "keep going" type of stuff.

When he got home from work later that night, he was like a little kid in a ball-pit...


So his answer? Well, you'll have to come back tomorrow for that! :)

7 comments:

I really liked that cookie said...

So cute :) I wish we had prom and formal dances in Denmark as well...

RhondaLue said...

so freaking CUTE! we do the big deal asking and answering here too. It's a BIG. DEAL. ha ha

But super fun and creative as well. Good memories!! :)

Venom said...

That is so awesome! That girl is so cute and creative, and daring. If he were my son he'd be taking her just because of all the effort she put in -- she sounds like the kind of girl who would be a very fun friend.

Susie said...

How fun is that??

okeydokeyifine said...

bet he said no

Tulsi said...

It drives me nuts, too. I'm a Utahn and we didn't do this in HS. My school didn't have Sadie's. When Steve went, they had a list of girls signed up. A list of guys signed up. They mixed them up and told the girl who she was chasing. That sounds so FUN!!!!. Now they don't. Mik has her eye on someone and thinking how to be the first. The reason they don't mix up names is because sometimes a Sr. girl got a Freshman boy. Steve wanted to get caught, but you gotta try not to for the sake of the game. He got hit by a car running across main street. Cedar was much smaller then to anyone who has been here. He didn't get hurt, but people complained about all of the kids diving into the street. There are SOOOOOO many more formal dances here than we had in my school. Homecoming here is Formal. In my school, Homecoming was a dance you went from the game (I cheered) and changed into regular cloths and went to the dance in the gym. No big thing. I think I had a date. But still, not big thing. No fancy cloths. It's hard for me to keep track of girls choice and boy's choice.

Paige said...

What a cute idea--I bet he loved it!