I am so irritated. I know, I can't manage other people. I know, I can't live their life. I know, I know, blah, blah, blah.
It's just that Menaissance was only six months ago, and he only met her like four months ago, and now they're engaged! And the really stupid, dumb, asinine thing is that it's not like I was "saving" him or "waiting" for him. I mean our little flingy-thingy during Menaissance was just for fun. It's just that he knows better. He knows that she shouldn't be the one.
How should I put this without sounding mean? Like, he has told me what he wants in a future spouse, and what he is NOT willing to settle for, and he told me he won't compromise anymore. Sort of that "been there, done that" with his first marriage and he vowed to not do that again. And guess what folks?!?!?! Yup. He is settling. He is lowering his standards, and he is compromising the very thing he swore he wouldn't. And WHY pray tell you ask, is he settling?
Well, I think he is settling for Two, count them, Two reasons! 1 - he wants Chocolate. Y'know the kind I am talking about. The rich creamy kind that he thinks is in that package. and 2 - because his ex moved on immediately after their divorce and got herself a live-in boyfriend. I think that he thinks if she can move on so quickly, than he should be able to too.
I want to smack him upside the head. I mean, seriously! He needs a spiritual spanking in the worst way right now. **sigh**
I know. I can't manage other people. I can't make him do anything. Only he can make his choices and work out his own salvation. And who knows... maybe, hopefully, I am dead wrong. Maybe things will end up perfectly-perfect for him and she will be the woman he is hoping for.
Heck, maybe, in a way, I am a teensy jealous, even if he is "settling". Who knows? And maybe, just maybe, he broke a teensy piece of my heart all over again. I mean, again, not that I was waiting on him or anything. I guess you just always want to see your first love get it right and be happy too.
**sigh**
I have to admit, "spiritual spankings"... that was a good one, eh?
8 comments:
yes, spiritual spankings is a great term. I shall now copy you and use it often. thanks!
...and it's too bad he's settling. He'll regret it later...if not SOONER!
I felt the same way when my ex moved on. I felt like he was just spinning from our break up and trying to latch on to anything...anyone. Well, it turned out that she was the best thing that ever happened to him. And now, it is ancient history for all of us. Hopefully, it will turn out this way for him too:-)
Sounds like a smack upside his head and spiritual spanking may not work.
The smack upside the head would be fun, right?
Kind of sounds like a little, "if I can't have him, no one can."
Agreeing of the fact that he is jumping in the deep end far too soon!
Loved the term "Spiritual Spanking"!
i know how you feel. i have a friend who is doing the exact same thing. she told me the things that were deal breakers for her, but now she's gonna marry somebody who is all the things she didn't want. i just don't get it.
Spiritual Spankings is a great phrase. I feel like that all the time with my brother. It's like watching I Love Lucy. You can see what is coming and want to climb in the tv and help her out but all you can do is watch, wince, and hope she learned not to do it again, although you know she is.
I get it that people fall in love at the wrong time. Then they get to a point when they will either get married or break up. trick is to not fall in love too fast.
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