Monday, February 23, 2009

Hey Crusty-Face, Get Over Yourself and Get A Life!

Why is it that some people are just determined to be MISERABLE? And why is it that they choose to be rude and try to make other people feel miserable too? The only thing I can figure is that they do not have a life, and for some reason creating drama gives them one. Additionally, being rude and ornery and even mean sometimes towards others somehow makes them feel superior... making them forget their pathetic life for a bit.

But I ask these people - Are you happy? Does acting like that really make you feel better? My guess would be it doesn't. Cuz, if it did, you'd be walking around smiling, instead of giving everyone - including me - crusty looks.

That's right. I said it. I see you give me the crusty-face-stink-eye ALL.THE.TIME. Don't think I don't see it. But here's what you need to know (You, meaning All of you Crusty-Givers collectively...not just one person):

1) Every time you do that, I am laughing on the inside. Seriously. Cuz when you act like that, I am just like - Geesh - Get over yourself! What grade are you in? I just laugh at how ridiculous your crusty glares actually end up looking. Too bad you can't see yourself in a mirror when you do that. Plus, dontcha worry that you're gonna get permanent "brow-furrowing" wrinkles?

2) As much as you're trying, you're not hurting me. Seriously. I am an over-all happy person. My life is not perfect, but mostly I am happy. I am sorry that for whatever reason your self-esteem is so bad that you feel the need to walk around handing out crusties like they were awards or something. See - here's the thing. I know that I am loved. I know that I have a wonderful family. I know that I have awesome friends - - who not only WILL do anything for me, but actually HAVE done stuff for me.

Friends have shoveled my walks/driveway when I wasn't home. Friends have offered to take my kids to school or pick them up when I had early or late work obligations. Friends have taken ALL of my kids for the night/weekend so I could sleep or get away for some much needed R&R - and at the last minute usually too. Friends have brought me little pictures or thoughts or sayings. Friends have let me "borrow" and egg, or salt, or the traditional cup of sugar when I am up at midnight baking cuz I can't sleep and then realize I am out of something. Friends have TOLD me that they love me. So, I am not worried about the effect of YOUR crusties. I know I am loved. I am grounded enough in my faith to know that my Heavenly Father loves me too. I am sorry, however, that your life sucks...well, I assume it does, cuz I can't figure why else you would want to walk around looking that like.

3) I don't know what on earth you think I have done to deserve your crusty awards. Too bad you couldn't have just told me in the beginning. It might have saved you about a year's worth of potentially wrinkle-causing crusties.

4) I have tried to talk to you. However, anytime I approach you it's like you scurry away, acting like you didn't see me. So, ya, I gave up months ago.

5) Though your crusties haven't hurt me, and instead make me laugh, they HAVE hurt others. I guess that is why I chose to vent via the blog. I am tired of hearing the same ol' same ol' from others about the crusty awards you hand out. I try to tell them not to let it bother them. Hopefully, eventually, they won't. Just wondered why you gotta be so mean sometimes.

6) Oh - and before I forget... just because a person states "I hate cliques" doesn't mean that they themselves aren't in one. It's kind of like that person who says, "I hate racism, but..." or "I hate gossipping, but..." Ya - it's all the same in my book.

7) Despite what rumors you may have heard or started about me - I am willing to bet that less than half of those are true, if that. I guess it's true what my counselor told me 2 years ago. "Once you get divorced, you will find out who your real friends are. You will find that women especially will go out of their way to be rude or mean you. There are three reasons they do this. 1) they are jealous. They wish they had even the slightest amount of courage to do what you did. 2) They are fearful. They are so insecure in their own relationship that they fear you will go after their husbands. and... 3) They are judgmental. Divorce is like the plague to some women. They look down on others who have opted for divorce, regardless of the reasons.

So here's what I have to say to all of the Crusty-givers out there: Get over yourself, and get a life. Seriously.

Why do I blog about this?

a) Because it makes for great bloggy fodder
b) I'm a bloggy-comment-whore, and this is sure to ensue commentary
c) Because I can.


Yaya said...

Darn crusty givers, I'll kick their a$$ for messing with Emma!

Great post BTW!

Cindy said...

Nice post Emma!
You have plenty of us that love you, :pppp to them!

ann said...

Stupid crusty givers, I've had a couple......Go get them I'm right with ya!

greenolive said...

I wish we could put all the crusties in the same town and just let them live there and rot. I think most of the time they know what they are doing and they think they are teaching you a lesson. They need to look in a mirror for more reasons than just to see how ugly their faces look.

TravAndToni said...

Good for you for calling out the un-likeable, un-happy, un-classy Crusty Queens!
Want me to throw poo on their porches? (As long as I'm not on the list, of course!)

Ronnica said...

It amazes me when people can make a mountain out of a molehill...but I sometimes do the same thing.

Ruthykins said...

is this person for sure giving crusties? i was accused of that once because of my "down face". you know, the face i have when i'm just relaxed. anyway, there was this girl that i thought was nice, but wasn't friends with. she thought i was giving her crusties. she told someone else about it and that person asked my why i do that. i had no idea that this was going on and i told her that it's just my blank face. just make sure that's not what it is, is all i'm saying.

EmmaP said...

First of all, Ruthykins, let me be clear and say there isn't just one. But yes, when I smile and wave and the other person rolls her eyes, turns her head and acts like she didn't see me (which she clearly did, hence the eye roll) you know its fo' shiz... Plus its happened more than once to be coincidental.

RhondaLue said...

crusty givers suck rotten eggs!

We have one of those in our own family. It's funny because all of her pointed comments, glares, stinkeye looks, just make *her* look bad. We don't give a flyin fig what she says or thinks. So really? the joke's on her! ;)

Susie said...

I agree! Happiness is a choice. Choose it:-)

purplehaze said...

Yeah at least you have found out who your friends are and the rest aren't even worth it! Like you said they need to get a life.

Paige said...

I am with you on how miserable these people might be--I just wish it did not bother me so much when one of them targets me to take it out on

Blog Stalker said...

I am glad to finally have a name to give those darn - crusty givers - darn them all to heck!

Great post......I especially like the reference to those who say, "I hate cliques" and are part of the most exclusive clique themselves.(btw, never used that word before, because I was not sure how to spell it, lol) There are 'people' in our ward who are part of that exclusive clique but as soon as more than two people(who are not them) get together for something they talk it down as something unhealthy and wrong. Crazy!

okeydokeyifine said...

Well, let me preface this by saying I know that I am superior to most folks, hence those that don't agree with me are non-existant.

Of course you know that I am just kidding.

Like you, I don't let them bother me. I might make an observation and even a comment but they do not hurt my feelings. The ones that do hurt my feelings are those I love the most. They know which buttons to push and I value their opinion. The others, who are now deemed as Crusty Givers, can just go walk off a plank.

Julie said...

Wrinkles! Ha Ha! It's funny how some of the crusty-face people have actually been in the same situation you are! You forgot to mention the "Clique Retreats"

Puphigirl said...

I admit that I may be guilty of giving crusties. Usually I try not to. It is just such a waste of time and energy.

But being around certain people I feel I have not control over my reaction to them.

Vickie said...

So that is the name of the "know it all mom" at the playdate I went to is called. She tried to make me feel inadequate. Crusty Giver!!

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"The Queen in Residence" said...

I think these people are everywhere and more insecure with us that have a strong sense of self. I had a back fence neighbor that the entire family was that way and I would just kill myself to be friendly to them. I think it annoyed them even more. But I love that you are not letting it get to you, we give them the power when we let them get to us. You go girl.

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Kristi said...

I think I know of one to whom you might be referring. Too bad some people live their lives thinking everyone is out to get them. Seriously, don't we all have better things to do?